WHEN WE ARE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP SOMETIMES WE DON’T KNOW WHETHER WE SHOULD LEAVE. THIS VIDEO WILL SHOW YOU THAT THERE IS AN IMPORTANT QUESTION YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF. IT WILL CLARIFY WHETHER YOU NEED TO GO OR STAY – BY ANSWERING IT.
Meet Elaine, a 45-year lady Elaine works as a secretary at her local Medical Centre. Unfortunately, Elaine was going through a bad patch in her life. She has been married to Martin for the past five years. Unfortunately, it wasn’t a happy marriage. She met Martin just after she got divorced from her first husband At first, it was like a dream come true. Elaine thought she had hit the Jackpot. Martin was not only wealthy, but he was also charming and good-looking; he fulfilled all her dreams. Sadly this honeymoon period didn’t last long. She soon found out that Martin had another side to him.
Disturbing behaviours appeared. He would fly into a rage if he didn’t get what he wanted. His temper was so bad; Elaine continually walked on eggshells. Elaine kept hoping Martin would change however his behaviour only became worse, and he became more controlling. Martin even stopped her from seeing her children and grandchildren. He also disapproved of her contacting any of her old friends. Elaine was at a breaking point! She knew if she walked away, she would have a hard road ahead of her. She knew she would suffer financially from having to start all over again. Elaine was scared; she didn’t know what to do.
So what was the one question that Elaine had to ask herself to help her make up her mind? What’s the COST for me to stay in this TOXIC relationship? And am I willing to keep paying that cost? Elaine gave this question great thought. The first cost is: Not being able to be part of my family’s life. The second cost: Living each day in an environment where I am afraid to upset Martin so he doesn’t get angry. The third cost to stay in this relationship; I feel so lost! Unable to recognise the person I have become.
At last, Elaine knew her answer; she finally admitted to herself: I have to leave Martin. I don’t want to waste one more moment of my life in this toxic relationship. It wasn’t long before Elaine found a home of her own. She was able to surround herself with all the people that mattered to her. In conclusion, remember if you are stuck in a toxic relationship and feel you can’t leave because you can’t afford to.
Make sure you ask yourself the right question. What is the cost of staying in this relationship? If you answer it honestly, you will soon know what to do! As for Elaine, she started to live her life the way we all should. She didn’t have to pretend to be something she wasn’t; she was able to be herself. In other words, for the first time in ages, she was her authentic self.